Yesterday
I picked up my kids from camp where they'd spent the past five days living in
the wilderness with about 25 other kids and five camp leaders. At the closing
ceremony, kids presented their projects from the week.
The
camp counselors threw a positive spin onto the end of each presentation. They
said things like, "And Jason was so good at overcoming this challenge that
the other kids were inspired by his perseverance," or "I loved
Maddie's innovation when she encountered that obstacle. It showed that she was
thinking creatively while trying to solve the problem."
My
daughter, sitting next to me, leaned over and said pointedly, "I wish
teachers were like that."
I
looked at her. Last year we received more than one negative, even snarky, comment from her teachers, either in an email directly to me or printed
on a report card in passive-aggressive style. Here are some examples:
My
question to a teacher: "How can I help her learn math better?"
Response:
"From what I see, she does not put in a very good effort. She loves
to read her book instead of pay attention...We work as individuals and as a
team. Not a great effort either way."
Notice
how this response does not answer my question, and blames the student
for her math performance?
Or
how about the teacher who wrote this on her June report card: "She needs
to be re-taught how to follow directions."
Attaching
a note like this to a final report card is disrespectful to the student and affords
no time to address problems. Responding to a parent’s direct request for
information about academic skill by blaming the student’s attitude is
borderline professional malpractice.
This
negative, even destructive approach to some of the schooling my children have
experienced reminds me, as we start the August ramp-up back to school, that we should re-calibrate our approach to feedback and the ways in which we support students.
Did
my daughter also have extremely positive interactions with several of her
teachers? Absolutely! And those interactions helped her develop a love for
learning and excelling. She wanted to have those smiling moments in their
classrooms, times when she knew she had done well. How can we accomplish this? Strive to be more like those constructive, supportive camp counselors.
- Reinforce
the positive students do, whether it’s behavior or academic skills.
- Find
ways to support them in making good decisions.
- Seek
avenues to individualize your guidance.
- Use
productive words in your feedback.
- When
problems arise, address them punctually with students and parents, if needed.
I
have gained much from observing the two styles of feedback on my own child.
I’ve learned that as a teacher, I need to provide guidance and correction but
with respect for the student as a human being. I need to define clear goals for
improvement and show students how they’ve moved toward those goals, not simply
find fault. Students are exactly the way we are: they shrink under negativity
but thrive on support.
This
August, I challenge all teachers to remember why we became teachers: not to
tear down or insult students but to build them up and support them in their
success. Let’s readjust our attitudes
and adopt a positive mindset. Channel your inner camp counselor!